Was Femi Kuti Right: Top Quotes On The Realities Of Marriage and Monogamy

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Afrobeat hitmaker has been in the news for a controversial statement about the institution of marriage.

He said to YES! magazine, “I will never get married again. I don’t think I will ever be able to trust anybody. I will never be able to give any woman that chance. First, I will never be faithful. Never ever! I will not even try to be faithful. I won’t! Because first of all, I don’t even believe a woman would be faithful to me. And why does she want to be faithful to me? First, I think it’s very unnatural and I can not even imagine standing somewhere and one man will say ‘I pronounce you man and wife. Who are you to pronounce me man and wife? Okay, I pronounce myself man and wife. There’s a girl who lives with me now. She’s not as jealous as most of my other girlfriends.. She knows I like women, so we understand each other. She doesn’t question me, I don’t question her. She takes cares of our child, no wahala. But the minute she starts being over-jealous, we are going to start to fight. She’s the kind of person that I will say, that girl is fine o, and she will say, should I chase her for you? And I will say don’t worry, I can do it myself. ”

Whatever your opinion is, it does seem Femi Kuti is in good company on this doctrine. Apparently a lot of famous, successful  and influential people from ancient history to modern times agree with the Afrobeat maestro.

Here are some of the top quotes we found:

To say that you can love one person all your life is just like saying that one candle will continue burning as long as you liveLeo Tolstoy (1828 – 1910) Russian Writer

An affair now and then is good for a marriage. It adds spice, stops it from getting boring… I ought to know. Bette Davis (1908 – 1989) American Actress

Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affairor else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames. Thomas Moore (1779 – 1852) Irish Poet, Singer, Entertainer

Promiscuity is like never reading past the first page. Monogamy is like reading the same book over and over. Mason Cooley (1927 – 2002) American Aphorist

I think that monogamy is artificial. I do not think it’s something that comes naturally to us. Tom Ford (born 1961) American Fashion Designer

Love has been in perpetual strife with monogamy. A great poet has seldom sung of lawfully wedded happiness, but often of free and secret love; and in this respect, too, the time is coming when there will no longer be one standard of morality for poetry, and another for life. Ellen Key (1849 – 1926) Swedish Feminist, Writer

Hard work is damn near as overrated as monogamy. Huey Long (1893 – 1935) Louisiana Governor, US Senator

Marriage requires a special talent, like acting.  Monogamy requires genius.Warren Beatty (born 1937) American Actor

I don’t think being monogamous is a natural instinct for human beings, but it doesn’t mean I don’t believe in monogamy or true love. I believe in finding a soul mate. Monogamy can be hard work for some people. I don’t think it applies to everybody, and I don’t think a lot of people can do it. Scarlett Johannson (born 1984) American Actress

Monogamy is impossible these days for both sexes. I don’t know anyone who’s faithful or wants to be. Goldie Hawn (born 1945) American Actress

Monogamy is like good crystal – beautiful – but once you get it, all it takes is one chip and it’s never the same again. Fred Barton (born 1958) American Composer, Director, Actor, Singer, Pianist

Personally I know nothing about sex because I’ve always been married. Zsa`Zsa Gabor (born 1917) Hungarian-born American Actress

If kissing and being engaged were this inflammatory, marriage must burn clear to the bone. I wondered how flesh and blood could endure the ecstasy. How did married couples manage to look so calm and unexcited? Jessamyn West (1902 – 1984) American Writer

If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married. Katharine Hepburn (1907 – 2003) American Actress

Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance. Jane Austen (1775 – 1817) English Novelist

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Oscar Wilde (1854 – 1900) Irish Playwright, Poet and Author

I said to this priest: ‘Am I expected to believe that if I went out and had an affair that Godwas really going to be upset? Okay, thou shalt not kill… steal… but thou shalt not commit adultery? If no one is any the wiser, what the hell difference does it make?’ He was lovely. He told me the Commandments were laid down for a lot of guys living in the desert’.Diana Dors (1931 – 1984) English actress and Sex Symbol


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