5 Costly Mistakes that Can Ultimately Ruin Your Marriage

A single mistake may not cost you your marriage. The unfortunate thing about life is that you might never see it coming.

Here are the most common relationship blunders to avoid in your marriage because if you don’t tread carefully, they can ultimately ruin your marriage.

Agreeing to things you don’t really want to do

Agreeing to things you don’t really want to do sows the seeds of resentment, and resentment kills relationships.

To avoid making resentment-forming concessions, follow the policy of joint agreement. Don’t take any action unless both of you are on board. Be honest with yourselves and with each other, don’t make a decision without the support of your spouse.

Keeping score

It’s a no good, just-plain-bad idea to keep count when it comes to what each of you does in the relationship.

Keeping score sets the two of you up as adversaries instead of partners, and it leads to focusing too much on what your partner isn’t doing as well as to frequent arguments where each of you defend your own contributions and minimize your partner’s.

You win or lose together, stop keeping score of each other’s sins.

Not spending regular time with each other.

Marriage doesn’t necessarily require work but it does require attention. Nothing thrives on neglect, and marriage is no exception. Spending minimal time with one another — think: less than 30 minutes each day — allows you to only act on a superficial level that can’t sustain a lasting connection.

Ensure that you are spending at least 30 minutes a day together without distractions. This allows you to stay curious about each other and what you’ve each been doing while apart.

Continuing to date — time alone together with the sole purpose of having fun — keeps the relationship fun and adds necessary novelty.

Not treating each other with kindness and respect.

It’s easy to slip out of common courtesies like saying please and thank you when you live with someone 24/7. But this is not loving or respectful behavior.” Never stop being kind to one another.

Make an effort to do little things on a regular basis that show you care. “Continuing to ask your partner if you can get them anything when you get something for yourself, trying to be quiet when they are sleeping, and just being considerate of them as another human being should be the norm.

Not making the marriage a priority.

Your marriage is hardly the only thing you have going on. And with so many things and people competing for your time, its easy to let your relationship take a back seat, especially if there aren’t any ‘real’ problems.

But marriage behavior should be as good or better than courtship behavior if you expect it to survive.” Rather than letting your marriage come in last, you should make time for it first.