We live in a world where everyone wants an edge. From sporting events to boardroom business deals, the competition is ridiculous when it comes to being a guy.
This is why you should always be on top of your game all the time. It just happens that sometimes, after you finally hook up the girl of your dreams, she ends the relationship after spending some time with you.
Well stop wondering, here are five reasons why she left you
You’re just not ready to date a grown woman
Most are still bent on playing childish games with women. That doesn’t work in this fast paced, tech savvy world we live in.
Childish games are like Kryptonite for a successful, smart woman. In fact, she can smell your junk a mile away. A lot of guys want to be dishonest, play the field or just plain run game on a woman and have the audacity to get pissed off when she calls him on it. Own your junk, tell her the truth and, for God’s sake, ditch the petty childish games.
You’re not believable
If you don’t believe you, no one else will. When you speak, are you coming from a place of authenticity and truth? Or are you just a walking contradiction that screams “Player?” The way you come across to others is so important in the dating world. There’s no shortcut or secret to this. You are either a truthful, believable person or you’re not.
You still think material things equal attraction
Don’t make me laugh! We live in a time where women are out there hustling harder than some men. Do you really think she can’t afford her own car, home, or drinks for that matter? She absolutely can.
The real deal is she is looking for someone to connect with on a level far deeper that a new bag or a trip to the spa; that’s stuff she can do for herself.
She longs for a companion with whom she can share her dreams, frustrations and fears. She wants arms she can feel safe in. All the other stuff is just dressing on the tree. So don’t insult her intelligence by flashing a few thousand naira and expect her to melt away for you.
You think it’s all about you
Dating someone self-absorbed is draining. It takes its toll on your wellbeing. A narcissist makes for a terrible date. She doesn’t want to sit across and have a conversation with another Kanye West while being forced to hear about what you’ve done, how wonderful you are and what makes her so lucky to be out with you tonight.
That gets old quick. If you are out on a date and doing most of the talking, you’re already blowing it! Shut up. Ask probing questions and then listen to the answers. If you let her, she will tell you where the key to her heart lies.
You’re obsessed with sexing her
What are you, sixteen? By now you’ve got to know that spending the evening trying to get into a woman’s pants rarely works in your favor. The whole night, all that’s been on your brain was how to get her back to your apartment; this is the exact reason she won’t end up there.
Let me tell you something you should have figured out a long time ago. If a woman is going to do anything with you, it will be on her terms, not yours. Wasting time trying to coax her into the bedroom is so tacky.
Get to know her. Make the investment into a relationship and see where things are going before intimacy takes over your brain. She’ll thank you for it.
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