It’s not every day that men are unserious; women too have their unserious days. While men often take the spotlight for being unserious in relationships, work, and even small things like replying to messages, let’s not act like women don’t have their own moments of premium unseriousness. If you’ve ever wondered whether the woman in your life is truly focused or just a professional time-waster, here are five undeniable signs that she might just be an unserious somebody.
1. She Says “I’m Just Chilling” When You Ask About Her Future Plans
A serious woman has goals, plans, and at least one unrealistic dream (like owning a private island or marrying a billionaire). An unserious woman, on the other hand, has one life motto: “I’m just chilling.” Ask her about her career, and she’ll tell you, “We go figure am.” Ask her about marriage, and she’ll say, “God’s time is the best.” Ask her about what she wants to eat, and she’ll tell you, “Anything.” This woman is living in vibes and inshallah.
2. She Borrows a Wig and Never Returns It
A woman who borrows a wig and refuses to return it is showing clear signs of unserious behavior. You’ll see her slaying in Instagram pictures with captions like “God’s favorite daughter” while the original wig owner is in her DMs saying, “Sis, when will I get my hair back?” A serious woman returns borrowed items on time. An unserious woman? She will tell you “Come and take it” but never be at home when you arrive.
3. She Has 72 Suitors But Claims “Men Are Not Trying”
An unserious woman has a phonebook full of men but will still post “God when?” on Twitter. On Monday, she’s rejecting an engineer. By Wednesday, she has aired a doctor’s message. By Friday, she’s posting motivational quotes about how “good men are hard to find.” If you check her WhatsApp, there are about 15 men saying, “Good morning, beautiful.”But unseriousness will not let her settle down.
4. She Starts a Business Today, Closes It Next Week
If a woman has started and abandoned more businesses than she can count, you’re dealing with unseriousness in human form. One day she’s selling hair, the next day she’s into skincare, and by next month, she’s a “real estate mogul.” You’ll see her post “Taking orders” today and “Who wants free delivery?” the next day. Before you even get the chance to support her, she has disappeared from the business world like an overhyped Ponzi scheme.
5. She’s Always “Five Minutes Away”
An unserious woman’s internal clock is set to African time plus extra delay. When she tells you “I’m on my way,” she’s still in bed. When she says “I’ll be there in five minutes,” she hasn’t even started dressing. A serious woman respects time. An unserious woman? If she invites you out at 7 PM, just know you’ll be leaving the house by 9 PM.
At the end of the day, unseriousness is an equal opportunity employer. If you’ve seen these signs in someone you know, just accept that she’s not ready for commitment, whether in love, work, or even simple things like picking a restaurant on time. But don’t worry, unserious women are part of what makes life fun—just don’t take them too seriously.