A romantic candle night dinner, exchange of sweet nothings, gentle caresses and some laughs, sharing the language of intimacy through eyes, and then? Well, everyone will expect such a sweet romantic night to be followed by some great moments of passion. But just when all seemed perfect for that love making session, she just backs out, or simply isn’t in the mood any longer. It isn’t her one of those tantrums, but her anxiety and fear that might be coming in the way. Here’s a list of common fears most women have about having sex.
1. Having too much fear about pain
One of the most common fears women have about having sex is the anticipation of excruciating pain. In fact, it can psychologically affect women so much that they start developing a phobia. Some women contract their vaginal muscles so tightly fearing pain that they actually make it worse and more painful than it normally would have been.
2. Feeling too conscious about her looks!
Almost all women worry too much in bed. They keep thinking things like “I’ll look ugly”, “He’ll see my big fat thighs in that lingerie” and “What will he think of me when he sees that flabby tummy?” Not feeling confident about their looks is the biggest turn off for women and the fear of looking ugly in the eyes of their beloved is what stops them from going ahead and having great sex.
3. Having too much pressure to perform
Women feel too pressurized to be “perfect” in bed. She fears just too much that her man will feel disappointed with her “performance”. And this unnecessary pressure and fear spoils the night for the couple!
4. Wondering “What if something goes wrong?’
The fear of getting pregnant or contracting some disease (STD) sits heavy on a woman’s mind before she gets ready to have a great night. Such fearful thoughts make her feel anxious and scared!
5. Wondering “What if he leaves me after this!’’
Believe it or not, but most women have this fear that they’ll not be perfect in bed leading their lover to feel disinterested in them. Hence the lady panics and fears that her boyfriend won’t love her anymore!
6. Having the pressure to have an orgasm quickly
As compared to men, women often take long to reach the climax. Before starting, she may feel the pressure of doing things quickly just to match with her boyfriend. But this often leads to anxiety and helps neither of them!
A couple needs to understand each other perfectly so as to enjoy a healthy sexual life. So it’s important for the man to relax her woman by helping her get rid of all her fears! After all, she too deserves to have a great night!
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