This may seem really difficult right now, just when you’ve broken up with your boyfriend. But, it’s certainly not impossible though. Here are a few rules that you must keep in mind if you decide to remain friends with your ex boyfriend.
1. Be practical
Though you may care a lot about your ex-boyfriend, don’t demonstrate over concern for his well being. Remember he is not your boyfriend anymore. So, getting too emotionally involved with a friend is not so much of friendship. This will just be awkward for both of you.
2. Let time take its course
Switching back to friendship mode just after a breakup with him doesn’t show your strength. Instead, in doing so, you might just hurt yourself even more. Don’t be in touch for at least for some time. Let time heal your wounds, both of yours. Give yourself time to get over him.
3. Don’t try to find out about his new girlfriend
This is the golden rule for remaining friends with your ex boyfriend. If he’s found a new love, it’s none of your business, irrespective of whether you find this new chick apt for him or not. Only if you can keep your hurt and jealousy aside can you continue to be a good friend to your ex.
4. Forget about past differences
This is often the hardest for all. There may be unresolved issues between you and your ex. But, you have to let go of those past grudges, if you want to have a peaceful friendship. Underline it in your mind, ‘You Are No Longer A Couple’! Don’t make sarcastic references to past instances and pick a fight with him now. Make peace with what’s already done and start your friendship anew.
5. Don’t be bitter about him
If you really want to stay as good friends, please honor the relationship that you two once had. Never commit the mistake of bad-mouthing your ex boyfriend in front of your gal pals, family or even coworkers. All this bitterness and trash talk might just reach your ex and he may cut you off from his life forever. Then, no friendship or any sort of relationship!
6. Don’t get all flirty
Avoid that naughty glint in the eye! He is not your man anymore, sweetie. Flirting with your ex is a sure no-no if you intend to maintain a pure, platonic friendship. No deliberate hand brushes, no coy ‘cute’ texts and strictly no covert hints of ‘hey, we could still be great together’.
7. Don’t discuss your current flames
This will put undue pressure on both of you. It’ll get really awkward if you chat about your current boyfriend and how amazing he is. Plus, you seriously don’t want to know who your ex has fallen hook, line and sinker for, right? So, make sure that whenever you and your ex meet up steer clear of topics that bring back old memories and uncomfortable pauses.
8. Don’t dwell on yesterday
Sometimes being just good friends can be really tiring, especially when you are still hoping to get back together. But, remember there was a reason why you two broke up so, again coming into a romantic relation will most probably just dig out old wounds. Reminiscing about your good ol’ days will get you nowhere. Instead, be happy and free in this beautiful new friendship.
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