Women will mostly disagree to split the bill sometimes or pay the full amount in a few dates because ‘it is not in our culture’ and the boy might take you for a fool. It is a seldom practice yes, but do you know the joy in a boys mind if he knows you are generous as well and you are willing to support?
Boys dont pick the bill because they want to
Pause for a moment and think, who really likes spending money always; NO ONE! I always told myself that boys pay because they like paying for me. They had made their choices — so why shouldn’t I reap the benefits? And yes… they just have to.
But guys, like women, are also battling against social expectations of their behavior. If a guy insists on paying the bill, it might not be because he just enjoys paying. Maybe he has all sorts of warped ideas about money and masculinity, like that he’s less of “a man” unless he makes X amount of money, has X kind of car, works at X kind of job, etc. He might be doing it because it is what is expected of them. Never questioning the “guy always pays” dynamic can open the door to a whole range of relationship problems, including frustration, or worse, resentment.
True, guys have the power to make their own choices. But if you care about your guy, why not have a compassionate chat about it and let him know you won’t like, love, or respect him any less if he wants to be taken out to dinner for once.
Old things should pass away
One of a girls favorite justifications for not reaching their my wallet was: that is just the way things have always been. After all, my father is the provider in my family, and my mom does not need to work. We do not let the old things that benefit us go away, we like to stick to it because it is of course comforting.
We have different needs and wants now which involves a lot of spending- before you get into a serious relationship the kind of long-term, committed relationship that can require in-depth financial discussions or compromises you must be generous enough to assist the man in expenses. For example, you insist on going on a romantic trip which will involve a lot of money of course- you must be willing to also bring financial assistance to the table, remember you insisted. Though, It seems pretty inappropriate to start shirking financial responsibilities while casually dating someone, so you need to be sure of what you are into because whether you like it or not it is an investment of not just money but time. Start doing things differently so the world would not leave you behind.
Guys love girls who are independent and who love to do their own thing. The last thing a guy wants is a clingy girl who wants her life to revolve around his – instead, guys want a girl who is happy being on her own and hanging out with him and not expect him to always spend money. Although paying on the first date is not something that you should, it is nice for men to have someone else get the bill for a change the fourth time, maybe. When asking how do I impress a guy you should know that this will show him that you are generous and it shows that you have a lot of confidence too. Also, it is nice to know that you don’t need him to pay all the time. However, because he will be strongly impressed, most probably he will pay most of the time.
I hope your now believe that you should pick that bill sometimes if you want to strengthen that relationship and hey, making the boy do all the bills is not exactly feminist.