There’s a pandemic nobody is talking about. No, not that one—the one where men assume they’re in a relationship without actually asking the woman out. One day, you’re “talking,” casually hanging out, and boom—he’s introducing you as his girlfriend. Sir, when did this happen?
Let’s be clear: vibes and good morning texts do not equal a relationship. Just because you talk every day and she laughs at your jokes doesn’t mean you two are a couple. If you never actually asked her to be your girlfriend, you’re in a situationship—or worse, a delusion.
Why Do Men Assume Instead of Asking?
- Fear of Rejection – Some guys would rather assume they’re in a relationship than risk hearing a “no.” Spoiler alert: avoiding rejection doesn’t make the answer yes.
- Comfortable Laziness – If you never make it official, you can avoid responsibility. No commitment, no expectations, no problem… until she moves on.
- Overconfidence – Some men truly believe that spending time together automatically means exclusivity. But sorry, just because she enjoys your company doesn’t mean she agreed to be your girlfriend.
Signs You’re Assuming Instead of Asking
- You introduce her as your girlfriend, and she looks confused.
- You’ve never actually said, “Would you like to be my girlfriend?”
- She still refers to you as “my friend” in conversations.
- You don’t know where you stand, but you act like a couple anyway.
If any of these sound familiar, you’ve skipped an important step: the actual conversation.
How to Ask a Woman Out Properly
- Be Clear and Direct – No beating around the bush. Say something like:
“I really like you, and I’d love for us to be official. Would you like to be my girlfriend?” - Respect Her Answer – If she says yes, congrats! If she says no, accept it with dignity—no guilt trips, no “but we’ve been talking for months.”
- Make It Special – It doesn’t have to be grand, but at least put in effort. A nice date, a heartfelt conversation—something more than a casual “so, we together now?” over WhatsApp.
Men, let’s retire this bad habit. Women are not your girlfriends by default. Just because you’re “talking” doesn’t mean you’re dating. If you want a relationship, ask—properly, clearly, and respectfully. And if you don’t, well… don’t be surprised when she moves on without you.
So, have you been assuming or asking? Be honest!
