The Wife of the former Governor of Oyo State, Mrs. Florence Ajimobi has said that Sidechicks can never take the place of the main wife because they can only be used for sex.
The former Oyo First Lady disclosed this in an Instagram video alongside her daughter, Bisola.
According to the first lady, she has caught her husband the former Governor, Ajimobi cheating on her before. She said she discovered that when men cheat, it’s mostly just sex and nothing more.
“Even on one or two occasions that I caught him cheating, he will apologise and once he apologises and it ends, I never go back to them (the issues) again. I never, Bisola because what I’m saying is to err is human, to forgive is divine.
“We are friends. Even as a wife, sometimes I fall below his expectations. Sometimes we do something worse than cheating.” The first lady said.
She then went on to clarify the type of behaviour wives exhibit that is worse than cheating.
There are some women that build houses without their husbands knowing. It is as bad. Why would you do such a thing without telling him? So, there are different things we do. It is not only cheating that is bad in a relationship.”
The former Oyo first lady went on to advise wives not to overreact then they catch their husbands cheating. She advised them to forgive instead if the man shows remorse.
Most men when they cheat they just have sex with the woman but when a man is having relations with a woman he loves, he is making love, it is not about sex. So, if you are cheap enough, give yourself to my husband, he is mine. He will never go away. He will come back. You are eating left over because I have eaten the better part of him.”
Speaking on divorce, Mrs. Ajimobi said the only grounds for divorce should be domestic violence and not cheating.
The point I will opt for divorce is when it becomes violent. And I cannot take that. But I don’t buy divorce because I look at my background… My mother never married my father. I was born out of wedlock. I grew up with my mum and stepfather. It is not the best for any child.
“So, even before I got married, I made up my mind that this union called married would be forever.”
She pointed out that most domestic violence was caused by women who say a lot of hurtful things and don’t know when to stop.
“Sometimes I know I have said horrible things to my husband and I see the look on his face. Before it goes further, I just lock myself in the toilet and he would ask me to come out and I will make him promise me that he will not touch me before I come out.
“You tell a man some horrible things and they get angry and worked up. So, I want us to learn from that and learn what we say because an angry man cannot control himself. Neither can an angry woman control her words
“So, sometimes we provoke the men to that level but when you know you’ve done it, don’t let any man beat you. Don’t allow it.”