When you are seventeen it’s easier to catch a feeling than a flu. And if you are blessed with the kind of looks and body like a TV model, chances are higher for falling in love. We all have those blossoming hours of our lives like the morning dews, fresh and beloved. Later on, like a fleeting shadow, age happens in more unexplainable ways. Good girls really get shocked when highly disciplined parents drop striking lines …”Let us meet your boyfriend” , “Is he the one on the phone?”
In a twist, boys’ irritating yarns sounding like bee hummings begin to make sense like sonorous Canary chirp. No honey without bees, really. This fact only increases the pressures. A huge dose of pressures come flashing intermittently as disco lights. But for the pressures, how many good girls would take a man’s sh*t? But for those pestering too, how many men would willingly release themselves to walk through the aisle? Forget all those “if you want me you know where to find me”, a woman needs a lot of subliminal pitching to do.
Are you really gonna blame these folks? Actually, wedding vows are like esoteric codes which when cracked in context seem like a palatable way of publicly ratifying the loss of freedom : the very idea Millennials dread. So for young men, the aisle is like a runway to the altar of sacrifice. And these fears soon manifest with time.
With time, the moon and its honey disappears, leaving boredom in its place. This one who only thought of getting engaged because of pressure seem fulfilled. How many women acting jailor dangling cell keys after pushing the accused behind the bars. It’s together forever, honey. Her rainbow colors in full display. Married a cat, transforms into Tigerhood.
The husband. What becomes of him? How should he react? He is a man, society reminds him, he should maturedly tolerate her excesses. And most men do… with a high sense of phlegmatic tempo. Others only chicken out with dirty linens in public to wash. … even threatening suicide. Good men will brace up for the turns and become good statesmen dropping advise for would-be spouses. Where the needs call they never fail to scribble secrets to unmarried buddies, like a prisoner to his family at home. “Marriage no easy, boy… Take your time, don’t rush.” If their marriage stopped working, they show much maturity by walking away. That’s a better option to battery or manslaughter.
With all these happenings, a new orientation is formed. We see the ripple effect in modern Millennials and their attitudes towards Marriage. The Pew Research Centre survey of 2010 reveals that many single do not even see any compelling stuff about marriage because they see being married as being tied down. According to a report by TIME magazine: “The three main reasons people give for their singleness are that they haven’t found the right person (30%), aren’t financially stable enough (27%) and are not ready to settle down (22%).” The unfolding of events in marriages are causing young unmarried folks to reassess their compatibility, finance and their choices.
Now, smart marriage advocates have a new code to embellish: Control lost, freedom gained (borrowing one of Christien Grey’s 50 Shades) How do you gain freedom from losing control? Relationship Experts have a gulf to bridge.
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