How to be a gentleman 101

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Looking around you today, it is not difficult to notice the nonsensical way Men behave towards women and even to their fellow men. Most men behave so unmannerly and uncourteous! Is it so difficult? Open the door for a lady, stand when she comes in (when you are on a date o)… read on.

A true gentleman makes sure that people around him are comfortable, respected and cared for. The courteousness, politeness, respectful and mature behaviour of a true gentleman can make the world a better place to live.
With a little effort and by developing a consciousness of people around, men can revive chivalry. A modern man can turn out to be a gentleman in its true sense, how? Just follow my rules.

Cleanliness to a good step

Your clothes doesn’t just have to look good, they have to smell good too. Let us list out how to maintain a proper hygiene:

•Regular showers
•Proper use of cologne and deodorants (make sure you don’t overdo them)
•Pleasant Smelling appearance
•Trimmed Nails
•Properly shaved and trimmed moustache and beard
•Neatly trimmed nose hair
•Clean hands and feet

Have a good presence

After basic hygiene comes your appearance, your clothing, your looks and your overall personality. Appearance actually reflects your attitude and your state of mind. A true gentleman knows exactly how to present himself. His decency and decorum is reflected through his dressing. A real gentleman knows how to present himself at different venues and different gatherings.

Make everyone around you comfortable

He is the guy who causes comfort to the woman he is with. Gestures of a true gentleman may include:

•offering woman his seat
•helping with her coat
•opens the door for others
•offers his jacket to his girl
•pulls out chair for her
•takes coat
•reaching for the cheque at restaurants
•stands when woman enters the room
•opening car door

Hence, he will ensure that whenever he is around he is a source of comfort for the people around him. He doesn’t do it to show his strength and masculinity; rather he does all these comforting gestures to show that he really cares.

You need to be always on time

Let your word be your bond. Don’t say one thing and do another. A true gentleman is always punctual. He never keeps a woman waiting. He respects her and her time. A real gentleman always plans his time for unseen things like traffic, last minute commitments etc. He makes sure that he reaches to her well in time.

Your morals should be impeccable

I am not saying you should be perfect, I am just saying that you should have a moral standard–a positively high one preferably.
Morals and values are the true traits of a real gentleman. He knows his values and sticks to them in all circumstances. All his dealings and interactions with people around him are based on his firm moral values that never let him down.

Be polite, courteous and again, manners

If you want to be a gentleman, you have to converse in a polite, mature and classy manner. They never raise their voice to prove their point. They never use an inappropriate tone, vocabulary or remarks while communicating with others. You just need to be more considerate of other people in your surroundings. Make use of magic words, ‘Thank You’, ‘Sorry’, ‘Please’, ‘Excuse Me’ etc.

And there is the Manly manners you will need

In this quest, you will need to have the manly manners (a man + well mannered), how?
Your manly manners make you a real gentleman. He takes initiatives in an emergency situation. He is the one people look up to in case of trouble. He demonstrates manly manners and makes a lasting impression on anyone he meets. A firm hand shake, confidence, well maintained eye-contact and courteous behaviour makes you the real gentleman. Whether meeting your boss, your family, your girlfriend’s family or some colleagues, he will present himself as a true gentleman.

How to act to your Wife or girlfriend as a gentleman

A real man proves that he is a true gentleman in the way he deals with his girlfriend. You can be a real gentleman to your girlfriend in a number of ways:

•Surprise her with unexpected gifts.
•Help her and assist her whenever you are around.
•Respect her thoughts and opinions.
•Show affection in all your actions.
•Stand up for your girl if any other men make advances towards your girl.
•Never ever hit her.
•Don’t raise your voice against her.
•Don’t say anything bad or negative to others about your girl.
•Don’t disclose personal things of your girlfriend or about your intimate relationship to anyone.
•Don’t force her for anything she is not comfortable with.

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