A popular Nollywood star recently dumped her husband for another lover, it happens. I know a wife who moved back in with her old boyfriend three months after marriage.
One unemployed husband walked away from his marriage because the mother of his children was too busy to have sex with him whereas the woman was just trying to take care of the family.
Divorce is everywhere, its all around us, even people who spend ridiculous amount of money on their weddings still end up untying the knot.
The question is why is divorce so common these days
Here are five reasons why divorce is everywhere today
You jumped into marriage for all the wrong reasons
Marrying for money — we’ve all heard that that is a ticket to a quick divorce — but what about when you marry because it’s what you think you should do?
He is rich yea, then 20 years later, he suddenly becomes poor, what will you do. There are many women who divorced their husbands because he couldn’t fund the regular UK trip anymore.
Never marry for the money.
You’ve lost your individual identity
A codependent relationship is not healthy. Many people lose their individual identity once they get married.
If you are not comfortable doing things without your partner, or you don’t know what kind of music, movies, or food you used to like before they came around, you are likely in deep and you probably feel like you are drowning and don’t know why.
You don’t share the same vision of success
“Everything changed when we got married!” He drives you crazy because you’re a saver and he’s a spender. Your idea of a weekend getaway differs. He thinks it’s your job to cook and clean, but you disagree.
Why didn’t he mention these things before? Maybe you should have asked. Chances are that he hasn’t changed — your expectations did. Is it possible to survive major differences in philosophy? It is possible, but many do not.
Your sex life is nonexistent
Somewhere in a marriage there is a subtle change in the intimacy department. Then there’s the idea that he isn’t as romantic or she isn’t as sexual.
This subtle change can trigger a downward spiral in the intimacy department. Men generally need sexual receptivity to feel romantic and women generally need romance to be sexually receptive. As long as both people are getting what they need, they willingly provide what the other person wants.
Lack of intimacy can lead to divorce as couples begin to feel unloved and unappreciated.
Unmet expectations
Somewhere written into a human’s genetic code lies the expectation that when a person isn’t happy, he or she is supposed to force his/her significant to make the changes required to make the unhappy person happy again.
This usually takes the form of complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, punishing and/or bribing.
When one or both people in the marriage are attempting to coerce each other into doing things they don’t want to do for their partner’s happiness, it is a recipe for disaster. When you are unhappy in a relationship, it’s okay to ask for the change you want. But, if your partner doesn’t oblige you, then you become responsible for your own happiness.
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